When a loved one gets cancer, a lot is going on in their life at that moment. They’re not thinking about groceries, keeping the house clean, or managing kids. Their life took a huge turn that is now going to take up a majoriy of their time, energy, and flexability. This blog’s purpose is for friends who aren’t sure how to lighten the load for someone who is battling cancer.
What Can You Say?
Knowing the right things to say can be challenging. You want to avoid saying the wrong thing, offering unnecessary advice, or being excessively positive. In this section, we will explore appropriate ways to communicate during this difficult time.
- One of the first steps you can take is to remain silent and listen. Allowing them to express themselves shows that you care and that you’re willing to be present, even if the situation feels uncomfortable. It is important to remember that they are feeling uncomfortable too, and your willingness to listen can help them feel seen and not alone.
- “I truly love and value you.”
- A few carefully chosen words can convey emotions that resonate deeply, reminding us of the importance of connection and appreciation in our relationships.
- “Do you have any questions now that you’ve been diagnosed?”
- This opens up a world of conversation. It shows you deeply care enough to listen to these intimate answers. Additionally, it opens up the opportunity to see where you can help. Research those questions, and come back with answers if they’re ready. Always affirm that these questions hold a lot of weight, and that it’s understandable to be overwhelmed.
- Instead of asking “How can I help?” try saying, “I’m free on this day; would it be helpful if I did your grocery shopping or tidied up for you?” This approach takes the pressure off the person you’re talking to. When you ask how you can help, it puts them in a position where they have to think of a specific request. By taking the initiative to offer assistance, you demonstrate your commitment to helping them.
Let’s Make This Easy! What Can You Do?
With resources being at our fingertips, there’s one that’s just right for this occasion. CareCalendar is an entirely free website that helps organize the help a cancer patient might need. CareCalendar has a built-in sign-up sheet that allows people to openly see when their loved one needs help. Below, we’ve listed a few ways to support your loved one, in more ways than words.
- Grocrey Shopping
- Organizing
- Tidying Up
- Transportation
- Support
What can CareCalendar be used for?
It is used for signing up to help with organization when it comes to transportation to appointments, coordinating meals, signing up to take care of kids, etc.
“CareCalendar is the original free website to organize meals and other help for families during a time of illness, recovery, or a life-changing event, such as the birth of a baby or the death of a family member.”
“When a loved one needs help, simply list the help that is needed. Family and friends can then sign up to fill those needs. Like an online sign-up sheet, only better.”
Key Takeaways
When a person is faced with a diagnosis like cancer, it often becomes an overwhelming presence that dominates their life, leaving little room for daily activities. Constant appointments, treatments, and the emotional toll can overshadow even the simplest tasks, making it hard to engage in the routines and joys of daily life. Helping in any way you can makes the biggest difference.
